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2018 and Still Job Hunting?

Not getting anywhere with your job search? Maybe you haven’t considered the intangibles that will make or break your chances of success.

I just gave a talk about the value of these intangibles during the job hunting and interviewing process. A video from one of my favorites, Anthony Iannarino, author of The Only Sales Guide You’ll Ever Need appeared in my inbox this morning. It’s clear, concise and is finished before the blog post I’m creating from my talk – plus, it’s hard to say it better than Anthony –  so I am pointing you in his direction.

Focus On The Intangibles

This is a must watch for job seekers. “But I’m not in sales” you say? Anthony writes about sales and he also writes about life. What is the job search if not a sales interaction? I promise that if you are looking for a job this video is for you.

The differentiator ends up being the intangibles, the things that you have personal control over. Develop these to a greater level than your competitor and it creates a competitive advantage.                   ~ A. Iannarino

There are tactical parts of a search and a need to connect skills and experience to the position but there are also critical components to which you can’t point on a resume. They are just as important, if not more important, to the efficacy of your search.

I hear clients ask, “I am perfect for the job, why I’m not landing anything?” You will be up against job seekers with similar backgrounds and skills, but the person who knows the value of the intangibles will take the prize over the job seeker resting his search on only the hard facts.

At 1:10 he hits the core of what I want you to hear. Listen until the end – about 5 minutes.

Thank you, Anthony Iannarino, for your perfect timing and perfect video.

 

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Career Change: The Great Equalizer

Executive or hourly employee, admin or mid-level manager, career change – even the thought of it – strikes the same basic fears and insecurities regardless rank. It is true that every individual brings a unique mix of circumstances to a career transition, but at the basic human level the fears, self-doubt, and concerns of the unknown exist on all steps of the ladder, on the lattice, in the silo, across the matrix, on the plant floor, and in the cubicles.

This is assuming that basic survival needs are covered.

I am talking about the idea of changing from a career, a company, or a position we know to something new. When our instinct fiercely fights to hold on to a familiar identity, we struggle to navigate the changes that career transition represents. We hold on, white-knuckled, while we try to align a new career direction with notions of who we may want to become next.

Yes, we are all different. But, underneath it all, we are so very much the same.

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Why Trust Career Serendipity?

Look back over your career. How did you land where you are? Chances are you’ll be able to identify a random meeting, an unplanned collaboration, or chance event that represents a critical moment that helped you on your way to where you are right now.

Pooneh Mohajer, founder of Hard Candy and two other startups, talks about career serendipity:

It’s funny, we have these plans for ourselves, these well-laid plans, and then you meet someone or are influenced by something or exposed to something; and we end up going in another direction, which is great.

Read the full Inc.com article here.

Notice serendipitous events. Be mindful enough to sense your gut reaction to them. Be brave enough to act on them. That’s how to create a brilliantly fulfilling career.

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Can’t Find Your One True Calling?

A client just shared this TED Talk with me. If you have 12 minutes and have experienced anxiety with the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” you must watch this video. I’m now an official bSI6ImhvbWUtZmVlZDpkZXNrdG9wIiwibiI6IjAifQ
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Career Wellness Partners, LLC, Named Resource for Divorce Mediation Center

ALLENTOWN, PA – Career Wellness Partners, LLC, a Lehigh Valley Career Consulting Company, has been named as a Professional Service Provider by Doylestown-based Alpha Center for Divorce Mediation.  The Alpha Center, founded in 1995 by Keila Gilbert, Esq., is dedicated to “providing families with excellent legal, financial and parenting guidance; thereby, empowering them to intelligently navigate their divorce transition and establish the best quality of life possible after divorce.”

The Alpha Resource Center, LLC, a sister company, was formed in 2006 and is dedicated to providing programs for saving marriages and assisting with divorce recovery.  It is here, where Alpha partners with professional service providers including family therapists, financial advisors, mortgage brokers, health and wellness professionals and career advisors who can be helpful during the transition of divorce.

Barbara Berger, Certified Career Coach and owner of Career Wellness Partners, works with individuals in career transition.   “Divorce is one of life’s most difficult transitions and, as if the pain of separation itself isn’t bad enough, often one or both parties find themselves in a career crisis as well.  They may have to change jobs or re-enter the work force.  Sometimes a divorce is a wake-up call and a spouse decides it’s time to switch industries, relocate, or re-focus their career goals.  Other times, divorce proceedings have a negative impact on an existing position and one of the parties finds themselves out of work and needing to take a transition job.  My company works with these individuals to help them find a way through the overwhelming career decisions and helps them find focus. Many times, people just need a place to begin.”  Berger said, “I look forward to the partnership with the Alpha Center as we have a mutual desire to help people find their way during a very difficult and emotionally-challenging time.”

Since its inception, the Alpha Center has grown to 10 locations in Eastern PA and is continuing to expand.  “The key to Alpha’s long history of success is the quality and dedication of the professionals who are a part of our program and resources.  We believe that Career Wellness Partners will be a wonderful resource for our clients since many of them face career transitions as direct result of their divorce transitions.  Life after divorce can be richly rewarding and Career Wellness Partners will be there to ensure that it is all that it can be.”

Career Wellness Partners is not a search firm or headhunter, but provides resume writing, mock interviewing, and job search strategies in addition to Career Consulting and Coaching. 

 For more information about Career Wellness please contact Barbara Berger at 484-862-9523, Barbara@CareerWellnessPartners.com or http://careerwellnesspartners.com/  For the Alpha Center please contact Arielle Krause at 800-310-9085, alphaoutreach@alpharesourcecenter.com, or http://www.alpharesourcecenter.com/

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How Saying “Yes” Moves Careers

Check out these 3 scenarios where saying “yes” moved real people to the next leg of their careers.  None are over-the-top-non-relatable-stories where someone with a few million in savings chucked it all to find their bliss as a scuba instructor.  These are examples of how saying “yes” to occurrences which, in hindsight, we call “serendipitous events,” can re-chart your career course.  They may seem inconsequential at the time, but when we connect the dots and see how staying open can influence our career path, it’s worth a serious look.

1.  “Have you ever done any bookkeeping?”  L’s aunt asked.  “Some, but I’m not a fan;” L replied.  “Well,” her aunt continued, “your kids are getting older and I need to find someone to manage my part-time bookkeeping job while I head to Florida for three months this winter.  Wanna do it?”  In her head, L thought, “Why not, I can do anything for 3 months, even bookkeeping, and I’ll get paid, and I’ll see what it feels like to work part time after being home with kids for five years.” After taking a few days to consider what she would do for child care, L agreed, not knowing that this “yes” began her re-entry into the workforce. (When her aunt returned in the spring, L was asked to join the organization in a role more suited to her past experience and skill set.)

2.  “I heard that you do some freelancing on the side.  Do you want to work on some marketing materials for my business?” Already balancing work, freelance, family and more, the “Yes!” that S heard coming from his mouth surprised him.  It eventually led to a significant freelance gig and ultimately to being signed on as an employee of the company where he stayed for the next 6 years.   This new assignment allowed him to relinquish some of his more time-consuming (and stressful) freelance jobs and build on a specific product area of expertise.  His “yes” resulted in a total industry change (even though he wasn’t looking for one) and propelled his career in a new direction while achieving a level of work-life balance he never even expected.

3.  The voice on the phone said, “E, we want you to work here, in the poorest school district in the area.  With your experience, we’d love to have you.”  She thought; “Out of the burbs and into the bowels of the city?  Hmmmmm?  I’ve been teaching students in a district where bedtime stories are expected, where pantries full of food are taken for granted and test scores are highest in the state.  Why would I go teach where the school feeds their students three meals a day, where resources are scarce, and where turnover is ridiculously high?”  The answer came quietly, but with clarity; “Because I’m needed there.  There are a ton of teachers waiting to take my place at this school; they don’t need me here.  But those kids…they need me there.”  “Yes, I’ll take, it;” she answered.” (E is now on the road to making a difference in lives of disadvantaged youth and, she says, evolving as a human in ways she could have never imagined.)

Note that each person above dealt with a fear of saying yes.  Fear of becoming a working mom and all that goes with that, fear of taking on more work and upsetting family balance, fear of going from a cushy-comfortable routine to something unpredictable.  In each case, the gut instinct, the unexplained pull to say yes, trumped fear.

I’m calling for guest bloggers who are willing to share how an unplanned YES moved them in an unexpected career direction. Click for submission guidelines.

Photo credit:  Flickr via  renaissancechambara

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Call for Guest Bloggers

Career Confidence – How Saying YES Makes All the Difference

Flickr credit: greeblie

Flickr credit: greeblie

SEEKING GUEST BLOGGERS to share YES stories….opportunities that made no sense to your career “plan” but you said YES and it took you in a new direction.  Maybe you accepted a random project, agreed to a networking event, was lured by a different industry recruiter, volunteered somewhere that led to a valuable new connection, etc.  Click here for three mini-examples.

When you can look back and identify times when saying YES changed your career trajectory, you become more mindful of how opening yourself to “random” events can hold career potential.  Sometimes YES results in a perceived “failure” but the “failure” holds value too.

From students who have options outside of their selected college majors, to women re-entering the workforce after divorce (or empty-nest or staying home with kids), to mid-lifers longing for a career change but not knowing where to start, I work with people in all stages of career development who can benefit from personal accounts of how YES breeds career confidence.

Things you may want to include in your post:

  • Give a brief overview of the situation.
  • When in your life did this happen?  In college/early career/laid off/after divorce/empty nest/staying home with kids/mid-career job change/ retirement?
  • Why did you say yes?
  • Did a gut feeling or intuition play a part in your decision?
  • Did you know with 100% certainly it was the right decision?
  • Did saying yes to that decision breed new opportunities?
  • Did you have all of the skills you needed to say yes or did you believe that you could learn what you needed to know?
  • How did it feel when you said yes?
  • In retrospect, how did that decision affect your career?
  • What form of career confidence came from that yes?

What things below might have stopped you saying yes?

  • Financial concerns.
  • People will think I’m stupid.
  • People will think this is below me.
  • People will think I can’t do this.
  • I’ve wasted all my schooling/degree/work in another industry.
  • My work schedule will change.
  • What else?

Nitty-Gritty Guidelines

Word Count:  Roughly 400 – 800 words, 1000 tops.  But use what you need to tell your story and share your point efficiently and effectively.

Content:  Original unique content – not published on your blog or any other blog in original or any modified form.

Editing: All submissions will be edited for correct grammar and formatted before publication.  Keep titles short and simple, preferably no more than eight words.

Author bio: Please include a brief author bio, name, title, company (if you want included).  One link in your bio is encouraged.

Audience:  Ranges from college students, to young professionals to women in the middle of transition, to mid-career job changers.

Images: We welcome image submissions with your blog along with appropriate photo credit.

Submissions:  Please submit all entries to barbara@careerwellnesspartners.com

Payment:   We do not pay for guest blogs but we’re happy to promote your website, business or blog on our social media in return.

Exclusivity & Promotion:  The same article cannot be modified and published elsewhere. You can link back to the article from your own blog and promote on social media to let your readers know about your post.

Notification:  Notification of when your post will appear will be sent one week before publishing.

Deadline:  Right now there is no deadline for submission on this topic.

Photo credit:  Flickr via Greeblie

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The Squiggle Phenomena

How to DRAW Mindful Career Squiggles

 

You’ve seen these images depicting the difference between what we are taught and the reality of success or achieving our goals.  It’s the same for career evolution.  For most of us, we draw squiggly career lines without even being aware of it.  Squiggles happen because that’s just the way life works. They happen when we connect with a new networking contact, get laid off, agree to a new ”short-term” project, or have a conversation with a total stranger in a coffee shop.

Squiggles are the unpredictable events in a world of things that we try to predict and control.

Knowing about the squiggle phenomena isn’t enough.  You could decide that since “random stuff happens” you’ll sit back and put pen to paper to connect the dots after the fact.   It is true that with hindsight you can link defining events more clearly; however, you can choose a more active role if you are first open to the curves, and then mindful of things that appear to have squiggle potential.  This way, you fully participate in moving the pen across the paper.

Remember these DRAWing tips when contemplating the art of your career:

  • Define and acknowledge your interests when they arise.  Notice long-standing themes.
  • Refine these interests and choose one or two on which to initially focus.  (It may make no sense to anyone around you that you would attend a conference on pet rocks, but, for some reason you’re really curious about pet rocks.  So, go.  New career opportunities unveil themselves when you boldly follow your curiosity.)
  • Act!  Create situations in which an opportunity for a squiggle could present itself.  (Say yes when a friend in a different industry asks for your help on a project, accept a board nomination, agree to be a guest blogger, etc.)
  • Watch for “serendipitous” events and align next actions with opportunities that show up.  (A Partner in XYZ firm invites you to an event.  Go if your gut says you should go, even though your brain doesn’t know exactly why.)  Pay attention to intuitive reactions.

While you’re DRAWing, don’t forget that:

  • Uncomfortable situations, the ones where you are forced to stretch sideways from your straight line goals, hold treasure.
  • Failure” is often a most valuable curve!  Sometimes more important things are on the other side.

Look back from where you are now and consider the unexpected connection or chance meeting that led you to your current position.   Accept squiggly lines as career reality and you’ll be free to get out of your own way!

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Is Fear Sabotaging Your Job Search?

Still putting off the job search you vowed to begin after the holidays?

The yearly bonus is safely in the bank.  The holidays are over.  You’re back to the grind and already feeling drained about the idea of spending another year, let alone another week, doing what you’re doing.   It’s time to start looking, but the fear of beginning your job search is paralyzing and you can’t seem to get moving.

Common among job seekers in all stages of their career, anxiety surrounds the search process.   Market conditions and state of the economy aside, it feels like you’re putting yourself in a position to be judged.   Somebody will judge you on everything from your resume format, to your education, to your work history, to your choice of interview attire.  You put yourself in front of others, and then wait to find out if you’re “good enough”.  At least that’s how it feels.  Even a healthy self-esteem can find the process daunting.

If you’re stuck, consider these tips to help change your mindset and face fears head-on so you can get out of your own way:

1.  Are you stressed because you don’t have it all figured out?  You can’t “think” yourself into the perfect job.   There is no way for you to be certain that you’re going like what’s next until you try it. Too much introspection breeds paralysis.  Think for a little while – but then act.

2.  Worried about selling yourself in an interview?  Be yourself in the interview.  There’s a difference.

3.  Transform the “I’m not good enough” worry by remembering that the Hiring Manager is considering if you’re a right match for a position; not if you’re a good and decent human being. You’re so much more than your job title.

4.  Take the “I might fail” fear and accept that you might.  You can learn tons about yourself (and what you don’t want in another job) by NOT succeeding.

5.  Afraid of putting your resume together?  Prepare.  Have someone else put their eyes on it. Get help from a pro.  Same goes for interviewing. If you are rusty, or if you know you’ve bombed before, enlist the help of a mentor for some mock interview practice.  Better to “bomb” in practice than in real life.

6.  Eliminate some of the fear of the unknown in an interview by concentrating on things you can control: your attire, arriving on time (10 minutes early), bringing a fresh copy of your resume, eye contact, general body language, questions for the Hiring Manager, etc.

7.  Set small, attainable goals.  (Warning – this may mean disturbing your comfortable routine of wine and FaceBook at night.) So, do you want to make this change or not?  Commit to some type of action each day (or every other day) to keep your job search moving.  One phone call, one resume submission, one bullet point on your resume is a step.

Fear leads to overthinking which leads to anxiety which leads to paralysis which keeps you stuck.  Action, no matter how small, can interrupt the fear and allow you to feel a sense of control over the process.  Once you feel like you have some control over the stress of the search, maybe you’ll even want to consider turning any remaining fear into curiosity.  And that’s when the magic really happens.

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