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The Difference Between Change and Transition

With COVID-19, we are navigating a shared change and very individual transitions.

Yes, there is a difference between the two.

They may feel the same, but they are very different. Change is external and transition is the internal process we experience in response to change. There are two books, both written by William Bridges, that I use when I work with clients in career and life transition. And this pandemic is certainly a career and life transition that none of us have experienced before.

Change is something that happens to people, even if they don’t agree with it. Transition, on the other hand, is internal: it’s what happens in people’s minds as they go through changeChange can happen very quickly, while transition usually occurs more slowly.” ~William Bridges

COVID-19 has changed us all. And, we are all transitioning in our very personal ways.

Using Bridges’ model, there are three stages of transition. Endings, The Neutral Zone, and New Beginnings.

  • ENDINGS: Loss, letting go, saying goodbye. If you are here, we talk about the importance of honoring what is ending. I’ve had clients plant trees, bury tokens, and unsubscribe to industry news to mark the ending of a chapter. Marking the end is necessary before a new beginning can start. 
  • THE NEUTRAL ZONE: Characterized by chaos, instability, disorientation. Sound familiar? And, also present in massive quantities in this zone are creativity, innovation, and possibility. If you are here, this state is temporary. The most important thing we can do is be compassionate with ourselves, find resources, support systems, and use mindful strategies to be open to the innovation and creativity that shares this space.
  • NEW BEGINNINGS: This is a phase of reorientation, acceptance, and identification with a new way of being. It may be that you accept the new that has replaced the old or that you see a sense of who you are becoming on the other side. If you are here, there may be relief that you’ve navigated through the uncertainty, there also may be new anxiety, excitement, and awareness that change may come again.

The change that the pandemic has forced upon us is shared. The transition we experience individually is very personal. Everyone moves through these stages at their own pace. I believe the more resources we have, the better.

These books are my go-tos. Bridges’ down-to-earth, practical concepts can help us navigate this shared yet very individual experience.

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We know of the glass ceiling. Ever heard of the glass wall?

We know of the glass ceiling. Ever heard of the glass wall?

A young woman stood on one side of a glass wall, watching her company’s business event happening on the other side. She was in there moments ago with her heels and suit. 

But pretending that she cared about the corporate blah-blah-blah wasn’t her jam. She left to get some air and caught the scene through the glass that now separated her from the event – and her fake self from her real self.

After years of deciphering clues from many glass wall moments, she fakes it no more.

If you’ve had your own glass wall moments – looking in, not feeling connected, not wanting to be connected – ask yourself:

  • What’s the scene I’d be excited to rejoin?
  • Who are the people, what is the environment, vibe, dress, emotion from that scene?
  • What are people talking about? Making? Creating? Building? Solving?

And maybe even

  • How can I create my own scene and invite others in?

Shatter the glass wall. Live you genuine.

I can help you do that. It’s my jam. 

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Has COVID-19 Revealed Your Why?

Is Your Purpose Unfolding During the Coronavirus Pandemic?

Sometimes we follow an instinct or our intuition, like an internal whisper, to make a career or life change and we aren’t clear on exactly why we are compelled to honor that whisper. Sometimes, we find value and meaning right away. Sometimes we struggle. And, sometimes, that “Big Why” is revealed much later…like during a global pandemic.

I am launching a video interview series and want to talk to people who are fully realizing the value of their shift during the Coronavirus crisis. I want to know how your your path unfolded. 

Here are two short ( 2-min) videos explaining the Honor the Whisper Project. Forgive the rough cut on the 2nd when my dog generously contributed to the audio!

Let’s create something together! Email Barbara@LiveYourGenuine.com or connect on LinkedIn to share your story.

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3 Ways to Increase Your Capacity at Work and in Life 

Jonah Hill, actor-director-producer, was interviewed on the Howard Stern Show in October 2018 (I’m an unapologetic fan since the early ’90s) and something Jonah said about doing work he loves resonated so deeply with me that I made note of it and posted a meme. Little did I know that one month later, I would stumble across an opportunity to immerse myself in a brain-based coaching program to learn more about how creating and connecting forms the framework for building our capacity at work and in life.

Capacity. What is that anyway? Is it the amount something can hold? Is it output? It can be both; holding and doing. We can apply the word to how much water an unyielding glass can hold before it overflows or how many parts a machine can produce in one hour but capacity interests me most when applied to humans.  We aren’t always great at recognizing our potential for growth. Rigid and limiting visions of ourselves and can allow output, our “doing”, to be sabotaged by what we tell ourselves about our capacity.

You are more than your limited perception of you and your capacity is greater than you realize.

As a coach who works with clients in major career and life transition, I know that capacity for finding solutions, identifying new possibilities, and dealing with setbacks increases when people are in a builder mindset. Just as capacity can be described as holding and doing, getting to a builder mindset boils down to creating and connecting. Begin by paying attention to these three things:

  1. Notice if you are separating more than connecting – with yourself and with others.

Humans are hard-wired to connect. When we rely only on ourselves or are not connecting with our genuine self in meaningful ways, we are limiting our awareness and possibilities. When you notice you are going it alone ask yourself questions like Who might have new ideas about this? And who else? If I asked my real self, what would she say? Who else could be on this team?

  1. Pay attention to whether you are reacting more than you are creating.

Reacting is a fight/flight/freeze response and our best decisions and solutions aren’t born here. When you notice you’re reacting to everything “out there” or waiting for the next shoe to drop or reacting only to the needs of others and not your own, ask yourself or your team What possibilities does this challenge present? What opportunities do you see? What part of this can be influenced?

  1. Take deliberate action to move on the scale toward creating and connecting.

Move away from separating and reacting. Make the call, send the email, schedule the meeting, wake up 15 minutes early, write the blog post…DO something to move that needle.

What you will find is that connecting leads to creating and creating leads to connecting and it is in this cycle that we build our capacity for almost anything life and business throws at us.

Want to learn more? Connect here to learn more about what we could create together!

Change Careers, Meaningful Work

Career Coach Q&A: The Morning Call

Thrilled to be tapped by The Morning Call, Lehigh Valley’s leading newspaper, for this piece in the Sunday career section. Thank you for great questions!

Read here: CareerWellnessInTheMorningCall

            “Meaningful work, for me, is about helping others find their meaningful work.” ~Barbara Berger, CCC

If you want to brainstorm ideas for your next career move, contact me at barbara@CareerWellnessPartners.com

 

 

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2018 and Still Job Hunting?

Not getting anywhere with your job search? Maybe you haven’t considered the intangibles that will make or break your chances of success.

I just gave a talk about the value of these intangibles during the job hunting and interviewing process. A video from one of my favorites, Anthony Iannarino, author of The Only Sales Guide You’ll Ever Need appeared in my inbox this morning. It’s clear, concise and is finished before the blog post I’m creating from my talk – plus, it’s hard to say it better than Anthony –  so I am pointing you in his direction.

Focus On The Intangibles

This is a must watch for job seekers. “But I’m not in sales” you say? Anthony writes about sales and he also writes about life. What is the job search if not a sales interaction? I promise that if you are looking for a job this video is for you.

The differentiator ends up being the intangibles, the things that you have personal control over. Develop these to a greater level than your competitor and it creates a competitive advantage.                   ~ A. Iannarino

There are tactical parts of a search and a need to connect skills and experience to the position but there are also critical components to which you can’t point on a resume. They are just as important, if not more important, to the efficacy of your search.

I hear clients ask, “I am perfect for the job, why I’m not landing anything?” You will be up against job seekers with similar backgrounds and skills, but the person who knows the value of the intangibles will take the prize over the job seeker resting his search on only the hard facts.

At 1:10 he hits the core of what I want you to hear. Listen until the end – about 5 minutes.

Thank you, Anthony Iannarino, for your perfect timing and perfect video.

 

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Career Change: The Great Equalizer

Executive or hourly employee, admin or mid-level manager, career change – even the thought of it – strikes the same basic fears and insecurities regardless rank. It is true that every individual brings a unique mix of circumstances to a career transition, but at the basic human level the fears, self-doubt, and concerns of the unknown exist on all steps of the ladder, on the lattice, in the silo, across the matrix, on the plant floor, and in the cubicles.

This is assuming that basic survival needs are covered.

I am talking about the idea of changing from a career, a company, or a position we know to something new. When our instinct fiercely fights to hold on to a familiar identity, we struggle to navigate the changes that career transition represents. We hold on, white-knuckled, while we try to align a new career direction with notions of who we may want to become next.

Yes, we are all different. But, underneath it all, we are so very much the same.

Change Careers, Meaningful Work

How to React to the Career Judgement You Will Face

“Are you still just consulting?” she asked me. At a networking event. In front of a colleague. In a room of professionals where I belonged. After realizing her blunder, she tried to recover, “Oh, I don’t mean it like ‘JUST consulting,’ and then she mumbled something else that only made her fabulous flub worse.

I brushed it off and continued my conversation with my colleague. The comment that would have made me question my professional existence (with that one word “just”) ten or fifteen years ago, now simply made my soul giggle.

Look, I’ve interviewed enough candidates to know when consulting is a gap-filler on a resume. But as the world of work evolves, the contingent workforce swells, and more people embrace a gig mindset to craft their ideal careers, we will eventually have to shift our model of what constitutes a “real job.”

I smiled as I walked to my car because I’ve held more traditional and acceptable (I guess) titles that, if asked that question back then, “So, are you still just a sales coordinator?” the “just” would have stung because I wasn’t sure of my path, or my contributions, or how it aligned with what I desired from my work.

“THIS is career wellness;” I thought to myself.

This brief exchange was a gift that I will now share with my clients and with any of you who are struggling with doubt about doing what you desire to do for fear of how others might judge you.

You will know for certain that you are doing what you’re meant to do when you come up against a “just” question, while perhaps not intentionally demeaning, and you are rock solid inside. And you can answer, if only internally, “Yes, I’m just building my career exactly the way I want it.”

Get weekly boosts to your career wellness here.

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Honest Career Discussions are Scary for Managers and Employees

Clients come to me because they are thinking of changing careers, are unhappy in their position, or want to grow and develop in their current company. I’m often their first stop for this discussion. In a perfect world, managers everywhere would know how to facilitate career development conversations and employees would be confident that having a real career discussion inside the organization wouldn’t have a negative impact. But we’re not there yet.

Who is responsible?

Is it the manager’s job to give employees all the answers for evolving in their career? No. The heavy lifting has to be done by the employee. But here’s the question:

How do we inspire employees to “drive their own career car” if we can’t support the message internally?

If full-on career conversations are not embraced internally, people come to career coaches where the certainty of anonymity and confidentiality allow a full exploration of options (including staying within their current organization) without jeopardizing their current role.

Hiding from the career development discussion doesn’t help.

After attending a SHRM workshop this summer about employee engagement and career development, I spoke with HR managers who confirmed the challenge of honest career conversations. It’s a fact that some organizations have departments where employees would never talk honestly with the manager for fear it would make life in their current role intolerable. And, sometimes, it’s because managers haven’t been introduced to the coaching skills required to navigate that type of conversation.

As I implement programs that inspire employees to slide into the driver’s seat, I also challenge companies to explore a confidential career resource for employees until internal career dialogues are fully embraced. If your organization has adopted an approach that works, I’d love to hear your comments.

As you plan for more holistic support of your team in 2017, consider making career coaching available to drive engagement from the employee side. Career Wellness Partners can help – ask me how!

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Change Careers, Meaningful Work

What Happens When You Follow Your Heart to Work?

Does your heart know that you are supposed to be somewhere else?

A man I know followed his heart to his current job. It’s a place where sadness and reality and love and fear and kindness and illness and strength and peace all mix together.

Genuinely Engaged

He doesn’t have to be in the trenches of this industry every day; he doesn’t have to immerse himself with the ground zero responders and with the people the organization serves, but he goes in anyway because he followed his heart there. He could stay in the ivory tower, away from the painful reality of the services his company provides. But, no, that’s not him.

Walking by a man who was sitting alone at lunch, my client was compelled to join him. He spent the hour with this customer/patient – human being –  who benefits from the services of his organization. The man said to my client, “People see how you float above the daily problems…and they want to know you. They wonder, ‘What’s his secret’?” (Meaning, we know there’s a lot to deal with here, but you don’t seem to let it affect your attitude or the way you treat others.)

After a soulful conversation, a communion of sorts with this man, my client, humbled and grateful, got up to leave from lunch. The man said, “It is good that you followed your heart here. You make a difference.”

You Can Just Tell

When you are where you’re supposed to be, people notice. When you are not, people notice.

I think if you asked my client, “What is your secret, anyway?” he would say:

“The secret is following your heart until you find yourself exactly where you belong.”

Where is your heart pulling you? Listen to the whispers to really know.

What happens when you follow your heart to work? You will not only be helping yourself, I promise. Genuine engagement is hard to ignore; it has a way of making the people around you feel good even when you don’t realize it. It’s the secret to doing your best and most meaningful work.

If you’ve followed your heart to work, I’d love to hear your story (and your struggles) while making it happen. Leave a comment below or contact me.

Happy Thanksgiving to those who have found that beautiful spot where work and heart collide. And Happy Thanksgiving to those who are still seeking – never give up!

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